How many times have to been on the road and felt cynical about the driving manners of others?
Wait a minute, now was that observation while you were walking along the foot-path or zig-zagging your way on a motor-bike or rolling in your fancy car (with the A/C turned on and some good music playing on the stereo)?
Like most of us, I have been in all the 3 situations mentioned above and I did not feel too good about my fellow travelers on the road in all of the situations.
Now isn’t that a bit weird?
While I am walking along, it is a challenge to cross the road because the bikers make you dance as they sweep past you as you try to make it from one end of the street to another. If not the bikers, the car guys will surely honk the living daylights out of you as if it was a sin to even think about crossing that street.
If you are on the bike, you will feel irritated with the jay walkers who have no sense of when to cross the road or be pushed off the road by the snobbish car guys.
When you are in the comfort of your car, you feel frustrated at the lack of basic courtesy by the bikers who will want to squeeze into every possible place behind your car or in front of your car or alongside your car. The walkers are no good either. They are always the ones to get the sympathy even if it is their fault that they decided to cross the street when the lights turn green for the traffic because car guys are always to be blamed in these situations.
The daily grind in reaching the office and driving back home can be a really frustrating experience if your drive time is more than 30 mins each way. This is especially true if you have to deal with the traffic chaos of developing countries like India.
From my experiences, I could see that I probably did all the things that I held my fellow travelers guilty of whether I was walking along, on my bike or driving my car. I am sure most of you out there can relate to this. But still we like to play the victim and blame everyone around us (expect us).
I have come to the conclusion through my own experiences that losing your cool in such situations causes more damage to us and does nothing to improve the situation around us. Trying to have it our way can at the most save us probably 10-15 mins. I have not seen myself landing earlier than this based on my personal experiences but this does come at a heavy cost of our physical and mental well-being not to mention the risk that it poses to others on the road.
I decided some time ago to not push myself when stuck in such a situation and take it easy. Sometimes giving way to someone else and seeing the smile or the acknowledgement of this person can make your day.
So rather than making a fool of yourself at every given opportunity we can choose to be ‘nice’ and then the office commutes will not be cumbersome.
I have made this switch, when will you?